Your Birthday

“Happy Birthday Sweet Girl” No. Nope. That feels wrong. I am not ready to “celebrate” your birth…to do so acknowledges the reality of your death. (Fkn slaps me in the face with That Reality is what it does!) So I’m sitting in it.  Promising no recriminations (to myself) for bathing in my loss today. TomorrowContinue reading “Your Birthday”


Looking over the edge of the Grief Abyss, I am suffocating under a curtain of emotions. I lose focus and slide into the fray. My breathing and heart rate increase and I start to shake as the feelings wash over me. Pulling me into and under, surrounded by a swirling darkness, I let go. IContinue reading ““Glancing””

Times II

In the quiet hoursI tried to look at your photosbut not today. I feel panicked. Raw. I get caught up in imagining your last momentsWhat did you know? Did you feel like you couldn’t breathe? (because you couldn’t) So you went outside (did you struggle for breath? Or did you just “fall asleep and die?”)Continue reading “Times II”


LossToo fair the thoughts of foreverWhen given just today.Gone. Empty.The day from night. The light does not stop the pain – only shines a brighter flash on raw flesh & torn open heart.To “lose” a child implies they will be found. She is only found in my memories. My heart. My Child…born from me, myContinue reading “Loss”


“Later doesn’t always come” those words struck me todayDrivingHome from workSitting in LA trafficUnder a graying sky. Would you be? Could you be? Alive in another place? Will I see you later? Because our “later” here will never comeand I grieve that. Hard. There’s no tomorrow for us No “I’ll talk to you later” NoContinue reading “Never”


I haven’t been able to remove her urn from the box yetI feel like I’m going to vomitAt just the thought of opening the urn and seeing “my child” I can still recall how much my head hurtfrom cryingfrom scrolling onlinetrying to find an urn to carry my daughter’s ashesfrom screen-shotting all our messages andContinue reading “Remove”

The Middle Ground

Gratitudeand platitudes Tell me to be strongTo carry on“Time will heal” meTime has abandoned me. The pain hidesDeep and quiet Covered in flour (a bread quest this knowledge has become)… WipedLeft behind on the apronDisused. Discarded. I feel such turmoilInsideNot just emotionsBut my guts are roilingAnd the fearIs so, so strong“I cannot lose you too,”Continue reading “The Middle Ground”


Recover UncoverDiscover Cover my eyes and count to tenThe reality is the same. No matter how I spin this aftermath. My child is goneThe Disconnect remainsMy head and my heart refuse to speakAnd painful longing fills the void. As I sitQuestioning my own realityDid she even exist? How can she be gone? Why? I feelContinue reading “Words”


The Great Sadness is lingering this morning and I am reluctant to write. Open the box. Glimpse insideAnd FallDownInto the darkness. It is warm Comforting I am not alone I feel her hereSo I Stay. I cannot quantify the depth of pain to lose a child. Yes, she was an adult. Yes, she died 18Continue reading “Stay”